An unexpected pregnancy can sometimes be cause for concern. Some expectant mothers are not in a position to raise a child, and these birth mothers may turn to adoption as a solution.
If you are considering adoption for your child, making the decision to give up your baby can be a difficult one. There are some things that you can do to help ensure that you are making the right decision for you and your baby.
1. Make a list of your goals in life.
It's important to consider not only your current circumstances, but where you are headed in life as you consider adoption. Taking the time to create a list of goals for yourself will help you identify milestones that you are working toward.
Seeing these milestones on paper can help you better determine how raising a child will fit into your long-term life plan. Adoption could be best not only for your child, but for you as well.
2. Determine your values.
Adoption provides you with the unique opportunity to choose the family that will raise your child. Combing through profiles of couples waiting to adopt can be overwhelming, so it helps to have some criteria established in your mind that will help you evaluate potential candidates.
Think about the traits and characteristics that you value. If you had the resources to create your perfect home, consider what that home would look and feel like. Determining your values can help you select an adoptive family that reflects those values. Knowing that you will be able to influence the way your child is raised by selecting an adoptive family with similar values to your own can help make the adoption process a little easier.
3. Seek out support.
Making the decision to place your child for adoption can bring up a lot of questions and emotions. It might be hard for your friends or family members to relate to what you are going through, so you should try to seek out support in other places.
Adoption agencies often host group therapy sessions where birth mothers can meet to discuss their experience. You can search online for birth mother forums where you can reach out to others anonymously as well. Finding support from other birth mothers will help you overcome your fears and learn what to expect as you make the tough decision to place your baby for adoption.